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Life Advice Please! Mar 13, 2013 17:57:12 GMT -5

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Post by yangyin on Mar 13, 2013 17:57:12 GMT -5

Hi. So, I'm in big doodoo. Like, huge.

My brother is leaving my house at the age of twenty. (Soon twenty-one, on the tenth of April.) The only problem is -- he's leaving to North Carolina, whereas I live in Florida with my Mom, Dad, Goddess Mother (complicated relationship, please, don't ask!), sister, and not-brotherly brother. (We 'adopted' him off the streets, as my brother, Kris, 'stole' him.. Not really!) My brother is also leaving to go to North Carolina, where my mother's crazy, phycopathic, abusive father lives. Bad. News. I am seriously hurt over this, because Kris promised to not leave me, and is making a stupid-as-shit (mind my French, please?) excuse that 'there are new possibilites for me there'. Another problem is that he leaves on Saturday, so not much time to run away or hide from the pain I know is coming.

Advice? I'd welcome it. =| Just no hate over my fam!

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Life Advice Please! Mar 13, 2013 18:39:14 GMT -5

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Post by ShadowWarrior on Mar 13, 2013 18:39:14 GMT -5

I know this is going to be hard. My big brother is leaving next year for college but the problem is he is going to my home town, Stevens Point, Wisconsin and I live in Indiana. But you also have to understand this from maybe your brother's point of view. North Carolina could offer him something life changing and good. I know that it feels like he is betraying you but he has to take this path before it vanishes. I mean, he still loves you. And maybe there are new possibilities there. Kris doesn't have to live or be near your mother's psychopathic, abusive father, does he? Think of it this way....when you are his age and leaving, say you made a promise to your sister you would not leave Florida at all. But then, Colorado was offering this great writing job. Something that you have always wanted and they pay well. That is a huge opportunity. Would you do to Colorado or stay because you promised your sister? I don;t want to sound like a bad person by saying it is ok to break promises but in that case it just might be

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Life Advice Please! Mar 13, 2013 18:45:10 GMT -5

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Post by yangyin on Mar 13, 2013 18:45:10 GMT -5

Yes, he thinks my mother is lying about her history. I do not. I have been born and raised to believe Mama in everything she says. And promises matter, especially in this family. But you're right; I would choose Colorado, but visit. I begged him not to leave, but I know hes going to go anyways. Thank you, Shadow.

I appreciate you.

ShadowWarrior Administrator The Boss ~Sorrow Swallows My Screams~ Posts: 5,422	Life Advice Please! Mar 13, 2013 18:56:25 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by ShadowWarrior on Mar 13, 2013 18:56:25 GMT -5 Sure thing Yang! And promises matter to me too but sometimes there are extents
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yangyin Global Moderator Posts: 88	Life Advice Please! Mar 13, 2013 19:38:28 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by yangyin on Mar 13, 2013 19:38:28 GMT -5 I know.. I get my own room, though.

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Life Advice Please! Apr 1, 2013 5:34:03 GMT -5

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Post by Lost-In-Flames on Apr 1, 2013 5:34:03 GMT -5

I just wanted to add in a bit here. My big brother is leaving in May, just next month. It is killing me, but I'm finding a hard time admitting that. I live in Tennessee, but I recently moved here from Indiana, and I honestly hate it here, I much prefer the city. I feel completely alone. I always lean on my big brother, and now he is leaving me too. The worst part, is he is going to college in Indiana.. So I feel your pain.. Kinda. I can see why you are worried, but the only thing you can really do is support him. I hope the best for you!

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Life Advice Please!

Post by yangyin on Mar 13, 2013 17:57:12 GMT -5

Post by ShadowWarrior on Mar 13, 2013 18:39:14 GMT -5

Post by yangyin on Mar 13, 2013 18:45:10 GMT -5

Post by ShadowWarrior on Mar 13, 2013 18:56:25 GMT -5

Post by yangyin on Mar 13, 2013 19:38:28 GMT -5

Post by Lost-In-Flames on Apr 1, 2013 5:34:03 GMT -5

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